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How To Deal With Change

If there is something we can rely on in life, it is that change will always come.

Life really is in a constant ebb and flow, and we are always growing. However, there are times when the universe asks us to take a giant leap, often without any forewarning. And that isn’t always easy. Although I do believe that change can be a positive thing as long as we are open to that, we don’t always see this right away.

So how do we deal with change when it seems to be thrust at us seemingly out of nowhere? Change can be the loss of a job, moving to a new place, a breakup, or a myriad other things. It usually does involve some kind of loss, though, and for that reason I believe it is important that we acknowledge that and recognize our need to feel that loss and allow ourselves time to grieve.

We need to let go of the old before we can embrace the new, and that can take some time. Being patient with ourselves and allowing ourselves the time we need to heal is important, but perhaps one of the biggest challenges of all. Change can be painful, and it is in our nature to resist it. Most of us don’t want to be in pain, yet growth often hurts, and is perhaps even necessary so that we can really appreciate the beauty on the other side. It is a fact in the world of contrast that we all live in.

When change happens we need to allow for the time it takes to emerge on the other side. Having said that, there are certainly things we can do to make it easier on ourselves.

Taking care of ourselves on all levels is important, and although we may feel like burying a hole in the ground and hide there until everything is over, that is usually not an option. 🙂 Instead we need to slow down as much as we are able to and do whatever we feel we need at any given time. This could be to go for a walk, do some meditation, exercise or perhaps call a friend for some uplifting conversation. All those things are great, and we should make use of all of them at some point.

When we are going through change and challenges in life, taking care of ourselves is sometimes the last thing on our minds, but it becomes even more important during this time. This includes both physically, mentally/emotionally and spiritually. As much as possible, try to eat healthy and get some exercise, see a therapist, attend a support group or talk to good friends, and keep up your spiritual practice (or start one if you don’t already have one).

During change it is time to go inwards and reflect on what has been, what you want to release and let go of, and what you want to embrace and bring in more of. Meditation and prayer can be very helpful when we feel stuck and in despair.

All these things can be comforting and help move you forward, but nothing is ever going to take away the pain completely, expect seeing it through. It is a process and it takes the time it takes. Sometimes the greatest comfort is just knowing that it is temporary, and that all will be well in the end (and if you don’t feel that it is well yet, that means it is still not the end).

There is a beautiful poem by a Swedish writer, Karin Boye, that I wanted to share with you. I found this English translation of it online, and I feel that it beautifully depicts the process of change, transformation and grief. I hope you enjoy it too!

Of Course It Hurts

Of course it hurts when buds burst.
Otherwise why would spring hesitate?
Why would all our fervent longing
be bound in the frozen bitter haze?
The bud was the casing all winter.
What is this new thing, which consumes and bursts?
Of course it hurts when buds burst,
pain for that which grows
        and for that which envelops.
Of course it is hard when drops fall.
Trembling with fear they hang heavy,
clammer on the branch, swell and slide –
the weight pulls them down, how they cling.
Hard to be uncertain, afraid and divided,
hard to feel the deep pulling and calling,
yet sit there and just quiver –
hard to want to stay
        and to want to fall.
Then, at the point of agony and when all is beyond help,
the tree’s buds burst as if in jubilation,
then, when fear no longer exists,
the branch’s drops tumble in a shimmer,
forgetting that they were afraid of the new,
forgetting that they were fearful of the journey –
feeling for a second their greatest security,
resting in the trust
        that creates the world.

So if you, like me, are going through some changes in your life right now, I hope you are able to take care of yourself, and take comfort in the fact that this is a temporary phase that will, once you pull through, take you to new, great heights!

And if you feel that you could use a little help and support in your life right now, I would like to invite you to join in my free online experience, The Chakra Challenge, a 7-day mini-course which kicks off on May 1st, with daily emails and lessons on the chakras, helping you to balance and heal so that you can experience more joy, peace and love in your life.

You can sign up here, and get on the list to receive the daily emails. Feel free to ask if you have any questions about it, but all the information should be in the link. I would love to see you there!

That’s if from me today, but take care and until next time, sending you so much…

Love & light,

Do You Detox? (+ A Full Moon Release Exercise)

Some of you who have been following me for a while will know that I am enthusiastic about the teachings of Ayurveda. As I am an avid yogi and Kundalini Yoga teacher that may not come as much of a surprise, since Ayurveda is considered the sister science of yoga. I am not an Ayurvedic practitioner by any means, and most of what I have learnt about Ayurveda is through reading books and doing some basic online courses, and of course, trying out and experimenting with some of the teachings myself.

Aside from doing a daily abhyanga self-massage (one of my favorite things that Ayurveda recommends, and is a great way to cultivate self-love), I also like to do seasonal cleanses. Ayurveda recommends doing a detox in the Spring and in the Fall, in order to rejuvenate your body and mind for a new season, giving your digestion a rest and tune-up, and take some time to slow down, reflect and renew yourself on all levels.

One of the things I love about an Ayurvedic detox, is that it isn’t just about cleansing ourselves from toxins and purifying the physical body. It is just as much about going inwards and taking stock of where we are at, slowing down, reflecting and meditating, as we look at what changes we want to make in our lives coming out of the detox. What do we want to let go of, and what new things do we want to bring into our lives?

I have been doing a seasonal Ayurvedic detox for about 3 years now, but with this particular one, I decided to go a lot deeper than normal. I signed up for an online program that helps and supports you through the detox, and also gives lots of suggestions on how you can design your own detox program. In the past I have always followed the traditional Ayurvedic way of eating a mono diet of kichari for 7 days (kichari is basically an easily digestible meal made from mung dal and basmati rice, with vegetables mixed in). I would eat this for breakfast, lunch and dinner, drink some detox tea, and do lots of yoga and meditation. I have been doing that to some degree this time also, but have also been incorporating green smoothies, and raw, living soups, which I found were great additions to my usual program.

The online program that I am following is also 3 weeks long, where you take the first week to ease into the detox, as well as take another week on the other end of the cleanse, to emerge and ease your way out of it. I found that this really helps to make the entire detox go much deeper.

Since I had the luxury this time of not too many outside obligations keeping me occupied, it seemed like a great time to really take some time to release on all levels, as I move into a new phase in my life. If you haven’t done a detox before, I highly recommend you explore it! It is a great way to recharge and reset your body, mind and spirit.

Of course, you don’t have to do a full detox to do emotional release work, and today being the full moon, it is the perfect time to release any old patterns and ways of being, to step into a new and more empowered version of yourself.

These last couple of full moons seem to have been some highly charged and emotional ones for me, and has really brought up some stuff that needs clearing.

For this particular full moon, I came up with an exercise to release any habits, patterns and old ways of being in relationships. This can of course apply to any relationships, but I chose to focus on romantic relationships in particular. So I went back to my very first relationship in my teens, and continued through every relationship I have had since, looking at all the dysfunctional patterns in each one that I no longer want to carry with me. Of course, many of them I have already released, but I figured it couldn’t hurt to look at it all again, and see if I couldn’t find some things that may still need some work.

I have my list completed now of all the things that I want to release and let go of so that at least these particular issues won’t cloud any of my relationships for the future. As the full moon rise tonight I will make a ritual of reading them all out loud and make a commitment to release them from my body, my mind and my soul, so that I can welcome in happier, more fulfilling and loving relationships in the future. Then I will destroy the list, so that the old energy can be released and make room for the new.

I hope you will try this too! I think it will make for a powerful full moon experience. No matter what you do this full moon, though, I hope you take care of yourself, and show yourself lots of love, not letting the emotions take over, but release them with love and grace.

Love & light,

PS. If you do the release exercise, please share with me what your experience was like for you! And if you have any questions about it or need support, please don’t hesitate to reach out. I always love to interact with my tribe and come up with ways to be helpful and supportive to you.

Are You Being Seen?

Once again we are at a new moon, the first new moon in the astrological year of 2017, that just began with the spring equinox. This new moon is in Aries, and is the most powerful new moon of the year. It is a great time right now to set or refine your intentions for the rest of the year and beyond, and also take some powerful action towards it. I have already done just that for myself, and can’t wait to see it all unfold! I hope you will do the same.

However, the topic of today’s blog isn’t really about the new moon. I wanted to talk about something that one my own coaches and mentors brought up recently, the issue of being seen.

The way I see it, there are two things that can be a challenge when it comes to being seen in the world and accepted for who you are.

First of all it is important that you surround yourself with people that see you and love you for who you truly are, not who they may want you to be. If most of your friends and family don’t honor you in this way, it may be time to do some housecleaning. That isn’t an easy thing to do, and of course there will always be some people around you who will not be as supportive and understanding of you as you’d like. For that reason it is important to be careful who you bring into your life, especially in your most intimate relationships.

And this brings me to the second challenge of being seen, and that is, are you allowing people to see you? Sometimes the people closest to us may see our potentials, but we may not be able to see them ourselves. This goes back to issues of self-worth, which we sensitives, empaths and old souls seem to have in abundance (issues with self-worth that is, not abundance of self-worth, unfortunately). We tend to be hiding our greatness behind a million excuses of why we are not good enough and why we don’t have what it takes to live the life that we desire, and to be who we deep down truly are.

It is easy to hide our light, but much harder to let it shine and step into the light of our own power. Most of us are taught to hide it, as we are not supposed to think that we are special or important, but the truth is that we all are. We are all completely unique and amazing human beings with a great set of talents and knowledge that we can use to make the world a better place, if we will just allow those parts of ourselves to be seen. But more often than not, we let society, or well-meaning (and not so well-meaning) people talk us out of doing the things we want to do, or being who we want to be deep down in our soul.

There is a reason why we have deep desires in our soul, and that is because we are meant to have them. And if some of our desires don’t come to pass, that is because there is something even greater for us out there. Trust this and believe that you have greatness in you, and if you have not allowed the world to see it yet, then it is time to do so!

So perhaps this new moon you may want to reflect on how you are shining your light in the world, and if you are allowing other people to really see it. And if you are not, what can you do to shine brighter, and express your authentic self to the world?

This will undoubtedly bring up some fear, as that always happens when we stretch and grow as human beings. Don’t let the fear stop you, though. It is only there to tell you that you are on the right track. Because if something wasn’t important to you, you wouldn’t feel so strongly about it. So feel the fear, but do it anyway. Don’t rob the world of your light, because it is so needed!

I invite you in the next couple of days as the energy of the new moon is still strong, to set some strong intentions and then take one powerful action towards it! And if you feel up to it, why not share it with me, so that we can support each other. When we step up and speak our truth and our desires boldly, you may be surprised at the way the universe and other people show up to support you. If the universe wants us to be happy, then who are we to negate it. 🙂

The world needs you and your unique light, so shine on!

Love & light,

Emotional Release + Self Healing (For The Full Moon & Beyond)

We had a full moon in Virgo this past Sunday, and I don’t know about you, but I was definitely feeling it. This particular full moon was in the earth sign of Virgo, and is all about self-healing.

During the full moon it is always a good time to release what no longer serves us, and this full moon was no different, except it appeared to be happening automatically this time, even without me focusing my intention on it. 🙂 So if you were feeling a little more emotional than usual this weekend, know that you were not alone.

What’s important to remember when our emotions get the best of us, is to trust and not fight what we are feeling. Allow whatever is coming up to just be and sit with it. Forcing ourselves to feel good when we don’t, doesn’t serve us or anyone else. And this doesn’t just apply to emotions around the full moon, but for any time we feel emotional for any reasons, including (and perhaps especially) grief.

This doesn’t mean we should just rage and take our emotions out on other people, though. But I believe it is possible to feel emotional, and just allowing it to be, without it having to affect other people (as long as those people around you can be understanding of that and give you the space you need). And when we allow ourselves to feel fully, letting all the emotions come up, that is when we can release them. The emotional pain will just go away on their own, when the process is complete.

This process works well for whenever emotions come over us seemingly out of nowhere, but sometimes there are emotions that are stuck deep, and may need a little extra work and attention to be released. Below are some suggestions on how to do that.

  1. Meditation

A regular meditation practice is one of the best ways I know to connect with our inner guidance, help restore harmony and equilibrium in our body and mind, and get in touch with our emotions and unresolved feelings. When we meditate regularly we are able to connect with the still point inside of us, a neutral place of calm where we are able to observe our lives without getting wrapped up in the emotional aspects of it all. Connecting with this still point will help you to release the emotions you want to release, allowing them to flow through you without letting them overwhelm you.

2. Breathwork

Breathing exercises are a very powerful, yet simple way to bring up and release emotions. Whenever you feel tension anywhere in your body (it can be in your neck and shoulder area, which is a very common place for unresolved emotions to be stored, or other areas such as the chest or solar plexus), breathe into that tension with a long deep inhale, and release it on your exhale. As you keep breathing into the tension, begin to ask yourself what may be causing the tension, and see what comes up. Don’t judge what comes to you, just allow it to flow up and out through your breath. If tears come up, allow them to flow too, as tears are a natural way for our body to cleanse and release emotional pain.

3. Movement 

A third way to release emotions, is through some kind of movement. This could be from regular exercise such as strength training or running, dance, yoga, or any other way you can think of to move your body. Emotions are energy, and when we move our body, it creates energy, that helps to move and dislodge emotions that may be stuck in our body and mind. In order to keep mental and emotionally healthy, it is a good idea to get some kind of regular movement into your routine. The mind and the body are intimately connected, and what affects one, affects the other. So moving our bodies helps to move and release emotions as well.

4. Self-Care & Healing

Whenever you are doing any kind of emotional release work, it is important to be gentle with yourself, and not overdo it. Only do what you feel you can handle at any given time, and take good care of yourself. Pay attention to your needs, and make sure you give yourself whatever you feel can help you in your healing process. This can be anything from support and a healing conversation with a friend, a hot bath in epsom salts, a massage, or anything else that feels soothing and relaxing to you. You can also aid your healing with crystals and essential oils and listen to soothing music.

5. Journaling

When you are working through emotional release and grief, it may be helpful to journal about your experiences and what comes up for you, to help give you perspective and process your emotions even deeper. Journaling is a great way to pay even closer attention to your thoughts and feelings, and even help bring them to the surface in the first place, so that you can then use any of the previous methods to let them go.

I hope these suggestions are helpful in giving you some ways to release stagnant energies and emotions from this full moon and beyond. Give them a try, and let me know how it goes by posting in the comments. And if you have any questions about any of it, feel free to post them as well.

Take care for now, and until next time…

Love & light,

Setting Boundaries And Saying No For Empaths

This particular blog post has been a long time coming, and it finally seems to be the right time for it. It is on a topic that many empaths and sensitives struggle with, and I have certainly had trouble with it from time to time too, so I can relate. 🙂

Setting boundaries and saying no is not always an easy thing. As empaths and sensitives we tend to be natural healers and nurturers, and want to help people as much as we can. We have big hearts, and when we come across someone else who needs help, our automatic response is to reach out and do what we can to help this person out.

There is nothing wrong with helping other people out when they need it, of course, and having a compassionate heart is a beautiful thing, and something to be appreciated. But when helping others means putting other people’s needs before our own, that is when problems arise, and we empaths and sensitives are notorious for that.

So the question is how to find the balance between following our heart and helping others, but also take care of our own energy and boundaries in the process. Here are some suggestions:

Grounding & Protection

This first one is the foundation for everything else, and is something an empath and sensitive would benefit from doing on a regular basis. Grounding and protection exercises can look different from person to person, but they may include things like going for a walk in nature, walking barefoot in the grass, standing with your feet firmly planted on the ground and visualize roots growing from your feet down into the center of the earth. Crystals such as black tourmaline, amethyst, black obsidian or my new personal favorite, shungite (which is pictured to the left) are good, as well as essential oils like patchouli, vetiver or any tree oils. Salt baths are also grounding, and help release any outside energies from your body.

Balance & Self-Care

Try to live as balanced of a life-style as possible, getting enough sleep, taking in nourishing and healthy foods and supplements, doing some type of exercise and pursue a regular spiritual practice. Kundalini yoga and meditation are my go-to’s for that, but do what feels good to you. I would highly recommend to at least try to get in some daily meditation, as there is nothing like meditation to help calm down an agitated mind and release stress. Also, make sure you take time out for yourself whenever you need it, to restore yourself and regain your equilibrium.

Organization & Decluttering

There is truth to the saying that a cluttered room is a cluttered mind, and the more you can do to stay organized in your life, the better it is for your assertiveness skills. Just like meditation helps to calm your mind, being organized and keeping your surroundings as uncluttered as possible, will do the same. When your mind is calm, you feel more confident and will find it easier to keep your boundaries strong. This also applies to the influx of information in your life, such as your email inbox, and social media. It may be a good idea to clear out unwanted email subscriptions, and take a break from social media every once in a while.

Eliminate Negativity

The more you can surround yourself with positive and uplifting messages and people, the better. This may mean limiting interactions with negative people as much as you can, and also limit how much you watch the news, violent movies and other things that bring you down. It is impossible to stay away from negativity completely, of course, but if you can cut it down to a point where you are able to feel mostly positive, then that will also help your ability to say no and be assertive.

Practice Boundary-Inducing Statements

The previous suggestions are mostly things that indirectly will affect your ability to set boundaries and say no, so this last one is perhaps the most important one that you can do to really help you directly. Practice voicing your needs to other people, asking for help when you need it, and letting them know when something is not ok. You can also practice saying statements to yourself such as, “I am aware of other people’s energies, but I do not absorb them“. Finally, before making a firm commitment with anyone, get into a regular habit of saying something like “let me check my schedule and get back to you“. That way you have some time to think about whether it is something you really want to do, before giving your final answer.

Remember that establishing boundaries and saying no is an ongoing practice and as with anything else, it takes time to get good at it. I hope you try out some of these tips, though, and feel free to share your experiences. Also, if you have any other tips to add, I would love for you to post them in the comments.

Until next time, have a great week, and good luck practicing your boundary-setting.

Love & light,

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Today is Valentine’s Day, and for those of you who recently participated in my Awaken To Self-Love Experience, will know that I am a proponent of self-love first, as I believe that to really experience love to its fullest, in all its forms, it all begins with self-love.

This is not a selfish love, but just about making a point of taking care of and loving ourselves, so that we can have that much more to offer others. This can be done in a multitude of ways, and I believe that each person needs to follow their own guidance in finding out what that looks like for them.

Self-love can be something as small as asking for help from others when you need it, giving yourself a footrub (or ask your significant other to do so), or scheduling a massage for yourself. So this Valentine’s Day, whether you are in a relationship or not, I encourage you to do something loving for yourself, too.

Personally, I booked a facial + healing for the day, and a massage for later in the week, so this week will be heavy on the self-care for me. It is much needed after all the work I have been doing lately, and I will enjoy the heck out of it, not feeling one ounce of guilt. 🙂

Which brings me to my next point. As empaths and sensitives (and women too) we tend to be very good at taking care of others all the time, and not leave a lot of time for ourselves. We wear ourselves thin working long hours, taking care of kids and family, and at the end of the day we are too tired to even think about what we need for ourselves.

I believe that this needs to stop. I mean, I get that some of us don’t have a choice, as we need money to pay the bills, and of course, we have to take care of our families. However, when all that comes to the detriment of our own happiness, health and wellbeing, that is not a good thing.

So the question is, how can we make time for more self-love and self-care in our lives when we are already so busy? I believe in starting small. Once we realize we need to prioritize our self-care, we can make little changes, one at a time. Perhaps we can ask for more help from our family or friends, when we need it. And setting aside a little time for ourselves each day, to do something loving for ourselves, whether it is to meditate, just stopping to take a few deep breaths, or take a hot bath, that is something we can all do.

If you are one of those who have been feeling overwhelmed, stressed and burnt out lately, I encourage you to start thinking about how you can incorporate more self-love and self-care into your schedule for this Valentine’s Day and beyond. Set reminders for yourself, so that you can get into a regular routine and won’t forget. Even though I have my own self-care routine that I practice every day, I still put it on my calendar, and check it off every day, as I would any other task. This helps me to keep prioritizing self-care as part of my regular schedule, just as important as my work and other tasks.

And so for this Valentine’s Day, I want to share with you a self-love meditation that I created recently for my Awaken To Self-Love Experience (you who participated in the Experience will have already seen it, but it doesn’t hurt to do it again). I hope you enjoy it, and allow it to connect you to the flow of love within you (and you can use it as your self-care tool for the day, if you want).

So with that I want to wish you a very happy Valentine’s Day, and I hope you enjoy the day, and make use of the opportunity to connect to the love within you.

Much love & light,

Being True To Your Self

Hi there,

How is this year going for you so far? Did you commit to any resolutions or goals that you are working on implementing?

I definitely have goals for the year and things I want to accomplish, and I like to take the beginning of a new year to redefine my goals and desires. There is something about the energy of new beginnings that helps to fuel my motivation and kick-start that fire and take action. And this year it is truly a new beginning, as we enter into a new phase of our paradigm shift and 2017 being a 1 year within numerology.

I don’t know about you, but I find the energies so far this year being off the hook! In fact, I have felt compelled to do things that I didn’t really plan for at all, but seems to just fit in perfectly with my overall goal of more energy, joy and alignment this year. One of them is joining a gym. I have been committed to exercise in the form of yoga for many years now, but lately I felt I needed something new to spice things up a little. So I found myself packing my bag and heading off to the gym with my husband the other day, kind of spur of the moment, and ended up signing up for a membership and even getting some personal training.

I am realizing that as an empath and highly sensitive person I need to release all the excess energy I pick up from my environment, as well as also build up my own personal power so that I can maintain the courage and confidence to live my own truth. And although you wouldn’t usually think of weight training as anything particularly spiritual, it has actually become that for me. Strengthening my physical body is also strengthening my mind and will-power, and so this form of exercise for me has become all about accessing my inner warrior and powering up the solar plexus chakra, which is something I really needed.

Being authentic and true to yourself isn’t always easy, and for me there have already been things brought up this new year that are challenging me in this area. Of course, I find that usually happens whenever you want to shift something. Now that I am committed to living authentically, though, I have decided that I will not back down and settle for things that are not 100% in alignment with who I am and what I want.

As empaths and sensitives, I find that we far too often bend over backwards to please everyone else and end up putting ourselves last. We think of ourselves as nice people and don’t want to upset or hurt others. It is of course a noble thing to want to please other people and make them happy, but not too the point of hurting ourselves. I for one am not willing to keep living like that, and this year I am even more committed to being true to myself, and not make excuses that cost me my own happiness. After all, I am the only one who can be truly responsible for my own life.

So whether you have made goals, resolutions or commitments to yourself this year or not, how about if nothing else, we can commit together to being more true to ourselves and show ourselves more love than ever before? And yes, I know that isn’t always easy with the million commitments that we have to our families, jobs etc. But that’s ok. You don’t have to be perfect at this (another expectation we empaths and sensitives tend to put on ourselves). All you have to do is make a commitment, and then renew that commitment whenever you “fall off the wagon”. Are you with me? Let’s make this our year to shine!

I am making this a short and sweet post, as I am busy putting together some cool, new offerings and freebies that I will put out there soon. For those of you who enjoyed the free chakra challenge that I put on last year, stay tuned for another challenge coming up soon, around the end of the month/beginning of next month. This one will focus on opening up to more self-love in our lives, and I can’t wait to share it with you. More information to come soon, so stay tuned.

For now, I hope that you are taking good care of yourself, so that you can shine your light and live true to yourself, more and more every day.

Love & light,

 

Blessings & Abundance for 2017!

We made it! 🙂 2017 is here, and a fresh, new year is laid out in front of us.

I hope the holidays brought you much peace, quality time with family and friends and time to rest and rejuvenate your body and soul, so that you are ready to take on this new year.

I know 2016 was a challenging year for a lot of us, many of my friends and clients certainly felt it, and I definitely had my moments too. For me it felt like a year that brought up a lot of stuff that I needed to work through. So although it felt challenging in a lot of ways, it also helped me to lay the foundation for this year to come. For that reason I am grateful for the challenges in my life, as I know that they are helping me to grow and become a stronger and better person.

Having said that though, I am also very much ready for an easier time of it this year, and if the recent messages from astrologers and numerologists are anything to go by, then that is what we are getting. Within numerology, if you add up the numbers in 2016, you get 2+0+1+6 = 9. The number 9 is a number of completion, and last year was a year that wrapped up a cycle, with a lot of turbulence and shifts on a personal, community and global level. However, with 2017, which is a 1 year within numerology, meaning new beginnings, we begin a new cycle, and one that in many ways will be easier.

Whether that is true or not though, for us empaths and lightworkers I don’t think that necessarily means we should just sit back and take it easy. On the contrary, I think we are being called to step up now more than ever, and bring our gifts into the world. And the best way to do that, in my opinion, is to become more in tune with our own inner essence. When we are in tune with our own inner essence, and let the voice of our hearts guide us, our lives make more sense, and we can begin to experience life more as it is meant to; full of love, joy, abundance and peace.

Getting to that place isn’t done over night, of course, as it takes a little time, and a little work, to clear out all the walls and fears that have been created within us from previous letdowns and disappointments. And then we need to let our lights shine out into the world and begin to step into our own mastery, which can sometimes be the hardest part of all. As I write this I am reminded of the wonderful quote by Marianne Williamson, and I can’t think of a better message to give to you for this new year than that:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

I believe with all of my heart that you not only have many gifts to give to the world, but you are a gift to the world. You are here for a reason, and your unique experiences, talents and gifts can help others. So if you haven’t already embraced all of what you are, your own inner essence, and started shining your light, now is the time to do so.

I would be honored to help you on that journey in any way that I can. And for now I would love to invite you, if you feel called, to join me for a 40-day meditation practice. You may, or may not, know that I am a Kundalini Yoga teacher, and within that tradition we often do 40-day practices, as that is the time it takes for us to shift out of old habits and into new ones. I just began practicing this beautiful meditation at the beginning of the year, but you can join in at any time (and if you don’t feel up to doing the 40 days, then do it as much or as little as you want, even doing it just once will make a difference). The meditation is called “Meditation for Gurprasad“, which means “gift of the guru”, and helps to bring in prosperity, blessings and grace for the new year and beyond.

Tune in by repeating the following mantra 3 times: Ong Namo, Guru Dev Namo

MUDRA: Sit comfortably with your spine straight. Cup the hands together, with the palms face up, at the level of the heart center. The elbows and upper arms will comfortably tuck against the ribcage.This is a very restful posture. The meridian points on the ribcage give immediate relaxation. Fill your heart, fill your soul, with whatever comes to you from the bounties of nature. Feel that you are asking & receiving a blessing from God.

EYES: Keep the eyes 90% closed, 10% open. Allow them to close completely during the meditation.

TIME: No restrictions placed on the time. Practice 3, 7, 11 minutes or more (I am doing it for 11 minutes).

Allow all the blessings of heaven to flow to you; ask for whatever you need; know yourself to be blessed; feel the boundless flow of spirit. Just let it happen. Fill your heart and soul with all the bounties of nature. Simply meditate on the boundless flow of the Universal Soul, and feel a deep inflow of spirit.

If you like you can play a beautiful mantra in the background as you meditate. Personally, I like this one right here.

Before I go, I want to wish you a Happy, Prosperous, Peaceful New Year, and I can’t wait to continue to share, grow and shine our lights together in this new energy of 2017!

Love & light,

Saying Goodbye To The Year 2016….

As the year of 2016 draws to a close, and a new year is right around the corner, I always like to take a little time to reflect on the year that has been, as well as setting intentions for the year ahead. As we just moved into the final Mercury retrograde of the year, it is the perfect time to do a little introspection and release, before going full steam ahead in 2017.

2016 has been an interesting year with many changes, both for me personally, and for our country (and the world). It has been a year of huge growth for me. In fact, I was just talking to a friend the other day, and telling her how I felt that I have grown more in this one year, than I had during the previous 10 years. And I don’t think that’s just me.

As our planetary shift carries on and we continue to move into a new paradigm of consciousness, I think we are all experiencing a lot of changes and shifts within our own lives, as well as those around us. It’s like we can’t be on the sidelines anymore, but are almost thrust into this new energy, invited to step up and step into our own light more and more.

I’ve been feeling this a lot this year in particular, and have really felt the calling to embrace my true self, and live my life more authentically. This meant not hiding my light any more, but to start sharing my gifts and coming into my own as a healer and lightworker. I’m sure I’m not alone in this. As empaths and sensitives we all have special gifts and talents to share with the world, but because of our sensitivities it can also be really scary to begin to put yourself “out there”. Most of us are not extroverted by nature, I am definitely an introvert myself, and deciding to become more visible and stepping into leadership, have brought up all kinds of insecurities, self-doubt and you name it…

But when you feel your soul’s calling so strongly that you can’t ignore it, but feel that you have to heed it, then that’s what you do, come rain, hail or shine. 🙂 I have no regrets, though, and plan to step into the new year even stronger, and keep spreading light and love in the world, in my own special way. And I invite you to do the same!

Now the holidays are here, however, so before the new year kicks in, let’s take a little time to enjoy ourselves. Spend some time with friends and family, eat good food, and have some fun. And let’s also take the opportunity of this downtime to reflect on what has been, and what we want to release, as well as bring in more of, as the new year approaches. Are you with me?

I like to do a journaling exercise of this, by focusing first on what I am ready to let go of, and do a ritual around that. I write it all down, and then I either breathe it out, “tap” it out, or envision putting it all into a burlap bag and then zapping it with violet light (violet light transmutes negative energy and turns it into positive energy). You can also throw it into a fire (real or imagined). The idea is that you do a ritual around releasing all the things that no longer serve you, any lingering negative energies from this year.

Once you feel complete with that, then go ahead and set your intentions for the new year. Write it all down in your journal, then read them out loud. I like to write everything down as affirmations. Good affirmations are powerful, present and positive. This means that that they make us feel something, and contain a strong positive statement in present tense (no negatives such as “I don’t want… etc.). We write out what we want as though it has already happened, and you are experiencing it right now (eg. I am vibrantly healthy, happy, and run a successful business).

Then take a little time and visualize yourself experiencing all the things that you wrote down in great detail. See yourself moving through a day in your life. What people are you interacting with? What do you do for a living? Who are you spending time with? What are you wearing? What are you eating? As you keep visualizing, pay particular attention to how you are feeling. The more you can feel the good feelings of your experience, the better it is, and the more real it will be to your mind. This is key in helping to manifest it all.

So I invite you to do this exercise with me before the end of the year, to really set the stage for a bigger, better and more prosperous 2017. I can’t wait to see what the new year has in store for us all. 🙂

And that’s me signing off for this year, with my final blog entry. I wish you a peaceful, joyous holiday season, and I look forward to experiencing a prosperous and happy 2017 with you all!

Love & light,

Tapping Into the Joy of the Season

I just love the holiday season!

I grew up celebrating Christmas with my family in Norway, and it was always such a magical time for me. As soon as the month of December came around, the countdown to Christmas would begin. The Advent calendar that my mom made, where me and my brothers could find a small gift every day, was brought out. The illuminated star would hang up in the living room window, and every Sunday up until Christmas we would light a purple candle for Advent. Sweet anticipation and excitement for Christmas, presents, good food and celebration was in the air.

Once Christmas finally came around, we would decorate the house and the tree together, get dressed up in our nicest clothes, and go to Christmas mass. The house would smell of pine, clove and Gingerbread cookies. And if there was snow, we would make little cone shaped lanterns out of snowballs, and place a candle inside them. It was a sweet time, and now looking back, it feels particularly precious to have these memories to look back on.

Even though I am now living in California, far away from the cold and snow of Norway, and although I no longer participate in most of the holiday traditions I grew up with, it is still my favorite time of year. As soon as Thanksgiving comes around, the joy of the season fills me once again. I enjoy the lights going up everywhere, the decorations in the stores (and decorating my home), and listening to carols.

Although it is the season for joy and cheer, cooking, baking, decorating and buying presents can be stressful, and rob us of much of the holiday cheer if we are not careful. Believe me, as much as I do love the season, it can get to me too. There are lots of parties at this time of year, and for us sensitives and empaths, it can easily get overwhelming. It’s just as important as ever to practice self-love and self-care, and make sure you get some alone time to recharge your energy and uplift your vibrations.

As much as I love the season, it can also sometimes feel a little bittersweet. When I look back on my childhood memories, I realize that there are only a handful of people in my family still living. On the one hand, it makes me appreciate the family I still do have all the more, but it also makes me think of everyone who is not here physically anymore: all my grandparents, my mother and my older brother.

For most of us the holiday season means time spent with family, and so the pain and grief for those in our family who are no longer with us, may be felt even more. So this year I have decided to start a new tradition, just for myself. I will light a candle at Christmas, as I focus on all the fond memories that I have with the family members that have passed away. I will take a moment to connect with them, talk to them if I feel that I have something I want to say to them, as well as listen for anything they may have to say to me. If you have lost someone close to you, perhaps you may want to do something similar to remember them in a special way this time of year.

And I will say this too. Sometimes we may feel we are expected to be happy and feel joyful during the holidays, but there may be myriads of reasons why you don’t feel that way, and that’s ok. If you have lost someone, or you feel lonely, or you are stressed out, don’t let the expectations of having to be happy, make you feel even worse. Acknowledge it if you are feeling down, and allow yourself to sit with it for a moment. Then you can think about doing something to alleviate it the negative feelings if you want to, whether it is reaching out to a friend, doing some type of ritual like the one I mentioned above, or something else that will help uplift you.

Whether you are feeling the joy of the season, or have been feeling more stressed out or sad, I do hope that you take care of yourself and give yourself what you need. Giving and receiving presents is a big part of the holidays, but first and foremost I hope that you give yourself the most important gift, self-love and self-care. When we take care of ourselves first, we have that much more to give others, and everyone will be the happier for it. 🙂

So take good care of yourself this holiday season, and whether you celebrate Christmas, Hannukah, or something else, or you don’t celebrate at all, I send you my best wishes for peace, joy and happiness.

Love & light,

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