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Emotional Release + Self Healing (For The Full Moon & Beyond)

We had a full moon in Virgo this past Sunday, and I don’t know about you, but I was definitely feeling it. This particular full moon was in the earth sign of Virgo, and is all about self-healing.

During the full moon it is always a good time to release what no longer serves us, and this full moon was no different, except it appeared to be happening automatically this time, even without me focusing my intention on it. 🙂 So if you were feeling a little more emotional than usual this weekend, know that you were not alone.

What’s important to remember when our emotions get the best of us, is to trust and not fight what we are feeling. Allow whatever is coming up to just be and sit with it. Forcing ourselves to feel good when we don’t, doesn’t serve us or anyone else. And this doesn’t just apply to emotions around the full moon, but for any time we feel emotional for any reasons, including (and perhaps especially) grief.

This doesn’t mean we should just rage and take our emotions out on other people, though. But I believe it is possible to feel emotional, and just allowing it to be, without it having to affect other people (as long as those people around you can be understanding of that and give you the space you need). And when we allow ourselves to feel fully, letting all the emotions come up, that is when we can release them. The emotional pain will just go away on their own, when the process is complete.

This process works well for whenever emotions come over us seemingly out of nowhere, but sometimes there are emotions that are stuck deep, and may need a little extra work and attention to be released. Below are some suggestions on how to do that.

  1. Meditation

A regular meditation practice is one of the best ways I know to connect with our inner guidance, help restore harmony and equilibrium in our body and mind, and get in touch with our emotions and unresolved feelings. When we meditate regularly we are able to connect with the still point inside of us, a neutral place of calm where we are able to observe our lives without getting wrapped up in the emotional aspects of it all. Connecting with this still point will help you to release the emotions you want to release, allowing them to flow through you without letting them overwhelm you.

2. Breathwork

Breathing exercises are a very powerful, yet simple way to bring up and release emotions. Whenever you feel tension anywhere in your body (it can be in your neck and shoulder area, which is a very common place for unresolved emotions to be stored, or other areas such as the chest or solar plexus), breathe into that tension with a long deep inhale, and release it on your exhale. As you keep breathing into the tension, begin to ask yourself what may be causing the tension, and see what comes up. Don’t judge what comes to you, just allow it to flow up and out through your breath. If tears come up, allow them to flow too, as tears are a natural way for our body to cleanse and release emotional pain.

3. Movement 

A third way to release emotions, is through some kind of movement. This could be from regular exercise such as strength training or running, dance, yoga, or any other way you can think of to move your body. Emotions are energy, and when we move our body, it creates energy, that helps to move and dislodge emotions that may be stuck in our body and mind. In order to keep mental and emotionally healthy, it is a good idea to get some kind of regular movement into your routine. The mind and the body are intimately connected, and what affects one, affects the other. So moving our bodies helps to move and release emotions as well.

4. Self-Care & Healing

Whenever you are doing any kind of emotional release work, it is important to be gentle with yourself, and not overdo it. Only do what you feel you can handle at any given time, and take good care of yourself. Pay attention to your needs, and make sure you give yourself whatever you feel can help you in your healing process. This can be anything from support and a healing conversation with a friend, a hot bath in epsom salts, a massage, or anything else that feels soothing and relaxing to you. You can also aid your healing with crystals and essential oils and listen to soothing music.

5. Journaling

When you are working through emotional release and grief, it may be helpful to journal about your experiences and what comes up for you, to help give you perspective and process your emotions even deeper. Journaling is a great way to pay even closer attention to your thoughts and feelings, and even help bring them to the surface in the first place, so that you can then use any of the previous methods to let them go.

I hope these suggestions are helpful in giving you some ways to release stagnant energies and emotions from this full moon and beyond. Give them a try, and let me know how it goes by posting in the comments. And if you have any questions about any of it, feel free to post them as well.

Take care for now, and until next time…

Love & light,

Setting Boundaries And Saying No For Empaths

This particular blog post has been a long time coming, and it finally seems to be the right time for it. It is on a topic that many empaths and sensitives struggle with, and I have certainly had trouble with it from time to time too, so I can relate. 🙂

Setting boundaries and saying no is not always an easy thing. As empaths and sensitives we tend to be natural healers and nurturers, and want to help people as much as we can. We have big hearts, and when we come across someone else who needs help, our automatic response is to reach out and do what we can to help this person out.

There is nothing wrong with helping other people out when they need it, of course, and having a compassionate heart is a beautiful thing, and something to be appreciated. But when helping others means putting other people’s needs before our own, that is when problems arise, and we empaths and sensitives are notorious for that.

So the question is how to find the balance between following our heart and helping others, but also take care of our own energy and boundaries in the process. Here are some suggestions:

Grounding & Protection

This first one is the foundation for everything else, and is something an empath and sensitive would benefit from doing on a regular basis. Grounding and protection exercises can look different from person to person, but they may include things like going for a walk in nature, walking barefoot in the grass, standing with your feet firmly planted on the ground and visualize roots growing from your feet down into the center of the earth. Crystals such as black tourmaline, amethyst, black obsidian or my new personal favorite, shungite (which is pictured to the left) are good, as well as essential oils like patchouli, vetiver or any tree oils. Salt baths are also grounding, and help release any outside energies from your body.

Balance & Self-Care

Try to live as balanced of a life-style as possible, getting enough sleep, taking in nourishing and healthy foods and supplements, doing some type of exercise and pursue a regular spiritual practice. Kundalini yoga and meditation are my go-to’s for that, but do what feels good to you. I would highly recommend to at least try to get in some daily meditation, as there is nothing like meditation to help calm down an agitated mind and release stress. Also, make sure you take time out for yourself whenever you need it, to restore yourself and regain your equilibrium.

Organization & Decluttering

There is truth to the saying that a cluttered room is a cluttered mind, and the more you can do to stay organized in your life, the better it is for your assertiveness skills. Just like meditation helps to calm your mind, being organized and keeping your surroundings as uncluttered as possible, will do the same. When your mind is calm, you feel more confident and will find it easier to keep your boundaries strong. This also applies to the influx of information in your life, such as your email inbox, and social media. It may be a good idea to clear out unwanted email subscriptions, and take a break from social media every once in a while.

Eliminate Negativity

The more you can surround yourself with positive and uplifting messages and people, the better. This may mean limiting interactions with negative people as much as you can, and also limit how much you watch the news, violent movies and other things that bring you down. It is impossible to stay away from negativity completely, of course, but if you can cut it down to a point where you are able to feel mostly positive, then that will also help your ability to say no and be assertive.

Practice Boundary-Inducing Statements

The previous suggestions are mostly things that indirectly will affect your ability to set boundaries and say no, so this last one is perhaps the most important one that you can do to really help you directly. Practice voicing your needs to other people, asking for help when you need it, and letting them know when something is not ok. You can also practice saying statements to yourself such as, “I am aware of other people’s energies, but I do not absorb them“. Finally, before making a firm commitment with anyone, get into a regular habit of saying something like “let me check my schedule and get back to you“. That way you have some time to think about whether it is something you really want to do, before giving your final answer.

Remember that establishing boundaries and saying no is an ongoing practice and as with anything else, it takes time to get good at it. I hope you try out some of these tips, though, and feel free to share your experiences. Also, if you have any other tips to add, I would love for you to post them in the comments.

Until next time, have a great week, and good luck practicing your boundary-setting.

Love & light,

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Today is Valentine’s Day, and for those of you who recently participated in my Awaken To Self-Love Experience, will know that I am a proponent of self-love first, as I believe that to really experience love to its fullest, in all its forms, it all begins with self-love.

This is not a selfish love, but just about making a point of taking care of and loving ourselves, so that we can have that much more to offer others. This can be done in a multitude of ways, and I believe that each person needs to follow their own guidance in finding out what that looks like for them.

Self-love can be something as small as asking for help from others when you need it, giving yourself a footrub (or ask your significant other to do so), or scheduling a massage for yourself. So this Valentine’s Day, whether you are in a relationship or not, I encourage you to do something loving for yourself, too.

Personally, I booked a facial + healing for the day, and a massage for later in the week, so this week will be heavy on the self-care for me. It is much needed after all the work I have been doing lately, and I will enjoy the heck out of it, not feeling one ounce of guilt. 🙂

Which brings me to my next point. As empaths and sensitives (and women too) we tend to be very good at taking care of others all the time, and not leave a lot of time for ourselves. We wear ourselves thin working long hours, taking care of kids and family, and at the end of the day we are too tired to even think about what we need for ourselves.

I believe that this needs to stop. I mean, I get that some of us don’t have a choice, as we need money to pay the bills, and of course, we have to take care of our families. However, when all that comes to the detriment of our own happiness, health and wellbeing, that is not a good thing.

So the question is, how can we make time for more self-love and self-care in our lives when we are already so busy? I believe in starting small. Once we realize we need to prioritize our self-care, we can make little changes, one at a time. Perhaps we can ask for more help from our family or friends, when we need it. And setting aside a little time for ourselves each day, to do something loving for ourselves, whether it is to meditate, just stopping to take a few deep breaths, or take a hot bath, that is something we can all do.

If you are one of those who have been feeling overwhelmed, stressed and burnt out lately, I encourage you to start thinking about how you can incorporate more self-love and self-care into your schedule for this Valentine’s Day and beyond. Set reminders for yourself, so that you can get into a regular routine and won’t forget. Even though I have my own self-care routine that I practice every day, I still put it on my calendar, and check it off every day, as I would any other task. This helps me to keep prioritizing self-care as part of my regular schedule, just as important as my work and other tasks.

And so for this Valentine’s Day, I want to share with you a self-love meditation that I created recently for my Awaken To Self-Love Experience (you who participated in the Experience will have already seen it, but it doesn’t hurt to do it again). I hope you enjoy it, and allow it to connect you to the flow of love within you (and you can use it as your self-care tool for the day, if you want).

So with that I want to wish you a very happy Valentine’s Day, and I hope you enjoy the day, and make use of the opportunity to connect to the love within you.

Much love & light,

Being True To Your Self

Hi there,

How is this year going for you so far? Did you commit to any resolutions or goals that you are working on implementing?

I definitely have goals for the year and things I want to accomplish, and I like to take the beginning of a new year to redefine my goals and desires. There is something about the energy of new beginnings that helps to fuel my motivation and kick-start that fire and take action. And this year it is truly a new beginning, as we enter into a new phase of our paradigm shift and 2017 being a 1 year within numerology.

I don’t know about you, but I find the energies so far this year being off the hook! In fact, I have felt compelled to do things that I didn’t really plan for at all, but seems to just fit in perfectly with my overall goal of more energy, joy and alignment this year. One of them is joining a gym. I have been committed to exercise in the form of yoga for many years now, but lately I felt I needed something new to spice things up a little. So I found myself packing my bag and heading off to the gym with my husband the other day, kind of spur of the moment, and ended up signing up for a membership and even getting some personal training.

I am realizing that as an empath and highly sensitive person I need to release all the excess energy I pick up from my environment, as well as also build up my own personal power so that I can maintain the courage and confidence to live my own truth. And although you wouldn’t usually think of weight training as anything particularly spiritual, it has actually become that for me. Strengthening my physical body is also strengthening my mind and will-power, and so this form of exercise for me has become all about accessing my inner warrior and powering up the solar plexus chakra, which is something I really needed.

Being authentic and true to yourself isn’t always easy, and for me there have already been things brought up this new year that are challenging me in this area. Of course, I find that usually happens whenever you want to shift something. Now that I am committed to living authentically, though, I have decided that I will not back down and settle for things that are not 100% in alignment with who I am and what I want.

As empaths and sensitives, I find that we far too often bend over backwards to please everyone else and end up putting ourselves last. We think of ourselves as nice people and don’t want to upset or hurt others. It is of course a noble thing to want to please other people and make them happy, but not too the point of hurting ourselves. I for one am not willing to keep living like that, and this year I am even more committed to being true to myself, and not make excuses that cost me my own happiness. After all, I am the only one who can be truly responsible for my own life.

So whether you have made goals, resolutions or commitments to yourself this year or not, how about if nothing else, we can commit together to being more true to ourselves and show ourselves more love than ever before? And yes, I know that isn’t always easy with the million commitments that we have to our families, jobs etc. But that’s ok. You don’t have to be perfect at this (another expectation we empaths and sensitives tend to put on ourselves). All you have to do is make a commitment, and then renew that commitment whenever you “fall off the wagon”. Are you with me? Let’s make this our year to shine!

I am making this a short and sweet post, as I am busy putting together some cool, new offerings and freebies that I will put out there soon. For those of you who enjoyed the free chakra challenge that I put on last year, stay tuned for another challenge coming up soon, around the end of the month/beginning of next month. This one will focus on opening up to more self-love in our lives, and I can’t wait to share it with you. More information to come soon, so stay tuned.

For now, I hope that you are taking good care of yourself, so that you can shine your light and live true to yourself, more and more every day.

Love & light,

 

Blessings & Abundance for 2017!

We made it! 🙂 2017 is here, and a fresh, new year is laid out in front of us.

I hope the holidays brought you much peace, quality time with family and friends and time to rest and rejuvenate your body and soul, so that you are ready to take on this new year.

I know 2016 was a challenging year for a lot of us, many of my friends and clients certainly felt it, and I definitely had my moments too. For me it felt like a year that brought up a lot of stuff that I needed to work through. So although it felt challenging in a lot of ways, it also helped me to lay the foundation for this year to come. For that reason I am grateful for the challenges in my life, as I know that they are helping me to grow and become a stronger and better person.

Having said that though, I am also very much ready for an easier time of it this year, and if the recent messages from astrologers and numerologists are anything to go by, then that is what we are getting. Within numerology, if you add up the numbers in 2016, you get 2+0+1+6 = 9. The number 9 is a number of completion, and last year was a year that wrapped up a cycle, with a lot of turbulence and shifts on a personal, community and global level. However, with 2017, which is a 1 year within numerology, meaning new beginnings, we begin a new cycle, and one that in many ways will be easier.

Whether that is true or not though, for us empaths and lightworkers I don’t think that necessarily means we should just sit back and take it easy. On the contrary, I think we are being called to step up now more than ever, and bring our gifts into the world. And the best way to do that, in my opinion, is to become more in tune with our own inner essence. When we are in tune with our own inner essence, and let the voice of our hearts guide us, our lives make more sense, and we can begin to experience life more as it is meant to; full of love, joy, abundance and peace.

Getting to that place isn’t done over night, of course, as it takes a little time, and a little work, to clear out all the walls and fears that have been created within us from previous letdowns and disappointments. And then we need to let our lights shine out into the world and begin to step into our own mastery, which can sometimes be the hardest part of all. As I write this I am reminded of the wonderful quote by Marianne Williamson, and I can’t think of a better message to give to you for this new year than that:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

I believe with all of my heart that you not only have many gifts to give to the world, but you are a gift to the world. You are here for a reason, and your unique experiences, talents and gifts can help others. So if you haven’t already embraced all of what you are, your own inner essence, and started shining your light, now is the time to do so.

I would be honored to help you on that journey in any way that I can. And for now I would love to invite you, if you feel called, to join me for a 40-day meditation practice. You may, or may not, know that I am a Kundalini Yoga teacher, and within that tradition we often do 40-day practices, as that is the time it takes for us to shift out of old habits and into new ones. I just began practicing this beautiful meditation at the beginning of the year, but you can join in at any time (and if you don’t feel up to doing the 40 days, then do it as much or as little as you want, even doing it just once will make a difference). The meditation is called “Meditation for Gurprasad“, which means “gift of the guru”, and helps to bring in prosperity, blessings and grace for the new year and beyond.

Tune in by repeating the following mantra 3 times: Ong Namo, Guru Dev Namo

MUDRA: Sit comfortably with your spine straight. Cup the hands together, with the palms face up, at the level of the heart center. The elbows and upper arms will comfortably tuck against the ribcage.This is a very restful posture. The meridian points on the ribcage give immediate relaxation. Fill your heart, fill your soul, with whatever comes to you from the bounties of nature. Feel that you are asking & receiving a blessing from God.

EYES: Keep the eyes 90% closed, 10% open. Allow them to close completely during the meditation.

TIME: No restrictions placed on the time. Practice 3, 7, 11 minutes or more (I am doing it for 11 minutes).

Allow all the blessings of heaven to flow to you; ask for whatever you need; know yourself to be blessed; feel the boundless flow of spirit. Just let it happen. Fill your heart and soul with all the bounties of nature. Simply meditate on the boundless flow of the Universal Soul, and feel a deep inflow of spirit.

If you like you can play a beautiful mantra in the background as you meditate. Personally, I like this one right here.

Before I go, I want to wish you a Happy, Prosperous, Peaceful New Year, and I can’t wait to continue to share, grow and shine our lights together in this new energy of 2017!

Love & light,

Saying Goodbye To The Year 2016….

As the year of 2016 draws to a close, and a new year is right around the corner, I always like to take a little time to reflect on the year that has been, as well as setting intentions for the year ahead. As we just moved into the final Mercury retrograde of the year, it is the perfect time to do a little introspection and release, before going full steam ahead in 2017.

2016 has been an interesting year with many changes, both for me personally, and for our country (and the world). It has been a year of huge growth for me. In fact, I was just talking to a friend the other day, and telling her how I felt that I have grown more in this one year, than I had during the previous 10 years. And I don’t think that’s just me.

As our planetary shift carries on and we continue to move into a new paradigm of consciousness, I think we are all experiencing a lot of changes and shifts within our own lives, as well as those around us. It’s like we can’t be on the sidelines anymore, but are almost thrust into this new energy, invited to step up and step into our own light more and more.

I’ve been feeling this a lot this year in particular, and have really felt the calling to embrace my true self, and live my life more authentically. This meant not hiding my light any more, but to start sharing my gifts and coming into my own as a healer and lightworker. I’m sure I’m not alone in this. As empaths and sensitives we all have special gifts and talents to share with the world, but because of our sensitivities it can also be really scary to begin to put yourself “out there”. Most of us are not extroverted by nature, I am definitely an introvert myself, and deciding to become more visible and stepping into leadership, have brought up all kinds of insecurities, self-doubt and you name it…

But when you feel your soul’s calling so strongly that you can’t ignore it, but feel that you have to heed it, then that’s what you do, come rain, hail or shine. 🙂 I have no regrets, though, and plan to step into the new year even stronger, and keep spreading light and love in the world, in my own special way. And I invite you to do the same!

Now the holidays are here, however, so before the new year kicks in, let’s take a little time to enjoy ourselves. Spend some time with friends and family, eat good food, and have some fun. And let’s also take the opportunity of this downtime to reflect on what has been, and what we want to release, as well as bring in more of, as the new year approaches. Are you with me?

I like to do a journaling exercise of this, by focusing first on what I am ready to let go of, and do a ritual around that. I write it all down, and then I either breathe it out, “tap” it out, or envision putting it all into a burlap bag and then zapping it with violet light (violet light transmutes negative energy and turns it into positive energy). You can also throw it into a fire (real or imagined). The idea is that you do a ritual around releasing all the things that no longer serve you, any lingering negative energies from this year.

Once you feel complete with that, then go ahead and set your intentions for the new year. Write it all down in your journal, then read them out loud. I like to write everything down as affirmations. Good affirmations are powerful, present and positive. This means that that they make us feel something, and contain a strong positive statement in present tense (no negatives such as “I don’t want… etc.). We write out what we want as though it has already happened, and you are experiencing it right now (eg. I am vibrantly healthy, happy, and run a successful business).

Then take a little time and visualize yourself experiencing all the things that you wrote down in great detail. See yourself moving through a day in your life. What people are you interacting with? What do you do for a living? Who are you spending time with? What are you wearing? What are you eating? As you keep visualizing, pay particular attention to how you are feeling. The more you can feel the good feelings of your experience, the better it is, and the more real it will be to your mind. This is key in helping to manifest it all.

So I invite you to do this exercise with me before the end of the year, to really set the stage for a bigger, better and more prosperous 2017. I can’t wait to see what the new year has in store for us all. 🙂

And that’s me signing off for this year, with my final blog entry. I wish you a peaceful, joyous holiday season, and I look forward to experiencing a prosperous and happy 2017 with you all!

Love & light,

Tapping Into the Joy of the Season

I just love the holiday season!

I grew up celebrating Christmas with my family in Norway, and it was always such a magical time for me. As soon as the month of December came around, the countdown to Christmas would begin. The Advent calendar that my mom made, where me and my brothers could find a small gift every day, was brought out. The illuminated star would hang up in the living room window, and every Sunday up until Christmas we would light a purple candle for Advent. Sweet anticipation and excitement for Christmas, presents, good food and celebration was in the air.

Once Christmas finally came around, we would decorate the house and the tree together, get dressed up in our nicest clothes, and go to Christmas mass. The house would smell of pine, clove and Gingerbread cookies. And if there was snow, we would make little cone shaped lanterns out of snowballs, and place a candle inside them. It was a sweet time, and now looking back, it feels particularly precious to have these memories to look back on.

Even though I am now living in California, far away from the cold and snow of Norway, and although I no longer participate in most of the holiday traditions I grew up with, it is still my favorite time of year. As soon as Thanksgiving comes around, the joy of the season fills me once again. I enjoy the lights going up everywhere, the decorations in the stores (and decorating my home), and listening to carols.

Although it is the season for joy and cheer, cooking, baking, decorating and buying presents can be stressful, and rob us of much of the holiday cheer if we are not careful. Believe me, as much as I do love the season, it can get to me too. There are lots of parties at this time of year, and for us sensitives and empaths, it can easily get overwhelming. It’s just as important as ever to practice self-love and self-care, and make sure you get some alone time to recharge your energy and uplift your vibrations.

As much as I love the season, it can also sometimes feel a little bittersweet. When I look back on my childhood memories, I realize that there are only a handful of people in my family still living. On the one hand, it makes me appreciate the family I still do have all the more, but it also makes me think of everyone who is not here physically anymore: all my grandparents, my mother and my older brother.

For most of us the holiday season means time spent with family, and so the pain and grief for those in our family who are no longer with us, may be felt even more. So this year I have decided to start a new tradition, just for myself. I will light a candle at Christmas, as I focus on all the fond memories that I have with the family members that have passed away. I will take a moment to connect with them, talk to them if I feel that I have something I want to say to them, as well as listen for anything they may have to say to me. If you have lost someone close to you, perhaps you may want to do something similar to remember them in a special way this time of year.

And I will say this too. Sometimes we may feel we are expected to be happy and feel joyful during the holidays, but there may be myriads of reasons why you don’t feel that way, and that’s ok. If you have lost someone, or you feel lonely, or you are stressed out, don’t let the expectations of having to be happy, make you feel even worse. Acknowledge it if you are feeling down, and allow yourself to sit with it for a moment. Then you can think about doing something to alleviate it the negative feelings if you want to, whether it is reaching out to a friend, doing some type of ritual like the one I mentioned above, or something else that will help uplift you.

Whether you are feeling the joy of the season, or have been feeling more stressed out or sad, I do hope that you take care of yourself and give yourself what you need. Giving and receiving presents is a big part of the holidays, but first and foremost I hope that you give yourself the most important gift, self-love and self-care. When we take care of ourselves first, we have that much more to give others, and everyone will be the happier for it. 🙂

So take good care of yourself this holiday season, and whether you celebrate Christmas, Hannukah, or something else, or you don’t celebrate at all, I send you my best wishes for peace, joy and happiness.

Love & light,

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How To Protect Your Energy As An Empath & Sensitive

Being an empath and a sensitive person is a great gift, but as with anything else, it also comes with its set of challenges. As empaths and sensitives we possess a heightened perception and intuitive abilities, and often pick up on energy from our environment, especially from other people. We can tune into how people are feeling emotionally and sometimes even physically. This makes us sensitive to other people’s needs and teaches us compassion and empathy, but it can also be exhausting when we take on too much of their energy, often without realizing it, and then later on we don’t realize why we are feeling bad or out of sorts.

Several empaths and sensitives in my circle have recently been asking me about how to protect their energy as an empath to avoid feeling overwhelmed and out of balance, so I was inspired to write this blog post to address that question and also help anyone else who may be struggling with this particular challenge.

Grounding

rootsGrounding is associated with our base (or root) chakra, and basically helps us to stay rooted in the physical world. One of the most important things we can do for ourselves is to make sure we are grounded and feeling a sense of stability and presence in our bodies. Especially those times when we realize that we are starting to lose our footing a little or begin to feel overwhelmed (even if we don’t realize why), grounding exercises can be very helpful, and essential for empaths and sensitives. They can help with sleep, too.

Physical activity helps us to stay grounded, be it more vigorous exercise like running, or less vigorous such as going for a walk or doing some gentle yoga. Any connection to the earth is great, so working with the earth, doing gardening, or just being out in nature, are all good.

Certain essential oils help with grounding, such as patchouli or vetiver, or the Balance blend from DoTerra. You can place a drop of oil on the soles of your feet, and/or at the tailbone where your root chakra is located. Then rub the remaining oil between your palms and hold them in front of your nose and inhale a couple of times. The sense of smell is associated with the root chakra, too, so inhaling the oils and enjoying their fragrance is another way to ground yourself.

Energy exercises for grounding can be great, such as visualizing red (or white) light coming up from the ground, and breathing it up into your feet, up your legs and into the tailbone at the base of your spine. As you exhale, visualize the light going back down and into the earth, forming roots to anchor you into the earth. You can do this a few times, until you feel grounded and connected to the earth.

Protection & Shielding

Protecting and shielding yourself from outside energies is very important for an empath and sensitive, especially if we know we are going to be around a lot of people, or in a toxic environment that may cause stress and anxiety.

Crystals and stones like black obsidian (mahogany and snowflake obsidian are great too), hematite and black tourmaline are excellent both for grounding and protection. You can wear them on your body, put them in your pocket or purse, and also place them around your house, so that you can make your house into a protected sanctuary where you can receive peace and restore yourself. Amethyst is another wonderful stone for protection, and can also be worn as jewelry (the other stones can technically be worn as jewelry, too, but may be a little too intense to wear unless it is in our lower centers associated with the root chakra, such as the ankles etc.)

You can also shield and protect yourself with the help of visualization techniques, such as simply imagining a shield that surrounds your body, and no negative energy can penetrate it. This white light exercise is a good one to do every day, or whenever you feel you need to, to protect yourself and your own energies:

Take three nice deep breaths. Feel white light coming in through the top of your head.  Inhale and bring it all the way down to your heart.  Exhale and feel it radiate into every cell of your body, pushing out any stagnant or negative energy.  Let’s do this two more times. Bring the white light in through the top of your head and send it into every cell. One more time. Now inhale again through your nose, and this time bring the white light down to your solar plexus, above your navel. Feel it gathering at your solar plexus. Then exhale and radiate the white light out from your solar plexus, past your body, past your aura, to completely surround your aura in a three hundred and sixty degree shield of protective white light. Do this two more times. Inhale and bring the white light down to your solar plexus.  Exhale and send that light out, to completely surround your aura.

Energy Clearing & Emotional Release

sageEven with the best of intentions and despite all our grounding and protective efforts, inevitably we will all pick up some energy and emotions that need to be cleared.

Crystals are great to release and clear energy, and probably the best one is smoky quartz, especially smoky quartz points. These can be placed with the points away from your body, such as below your feet, and let them to their magic and clear away any negative energy.

Smudging with sage or other herbs is a great way to clear any area, such as a room or your house of any unwanted energies, and you can also use it to clear your own energy field. Just light the sage or herbs on fire, blow it out and move the bundle and the smoke around your body to clear your own energies. You could also use incense for this if you prefer.

One of my favorite things to do for clearing and release of negative energies, is to take a salt bath. Salt is very grounding, and helps to clear away stress and negative energies, including anything we may have picked up from our environment during the day. The more pure the salt, the better, and you can use pink Himalayan salt, regular sea salt, dead sea salt, epsom salts or any other natural salt that takes your fancy. Add a few drops of your favorite essential oils and you have a wonderfully purifying and relaxing experience.

As you bathe you may want to do some deep breathing to help release even more stress and negative energy, as the breath is probably the easiest and simplest way to release and clear energy, that doesn’t require any additional tools. Just take a few deep breaths, inhaling through the nose and exhaling through the mouth as you envision any stress and negativity leaving your body and mind with each exhale.

I hope you enjoyed this relatively long post. I felt it was important to get all the three elements of grounding, protection and clearing in there. These tools and exercises have definitely helped me out a lot on my own path of dealing with the sensitivity and challenges of being an empath, so I do hope you find them helpful and try some of them out. 🙂

Love & light,

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Love Note Journaling & The High Heart

Hi there!

In my last post, I talked a little bit about my new practice of love note journaling. That is, I hadn’t started it yet when I last wrote, because I was waiting for my new journal to arrive in the mail. I ordered one specifically for my love notes, and here it is (see picture)! img_0271🙂 It’s a small journal, as the love notes don’t have to be long. Only a paragraph of up to 3-5 sentences is really all it takes.The idea is to really tune into self-love, and being able to feel that love for yourself.

Some days that is easier than others, but taking the time to do the love notes every day, definitely makes a difference. If there are things about myself where I have a harder time feeling the love, I try to spend more time on those particular areas, really showering my love and attention there, whether they are physical things or a personality issue.

The reason why I wanted to start doing this was because I really feel that love is our greatest healer. It is my belief and something that the book by Anita Moorjani’s reinforced (I mentioned her book in my last post, Dying To Be Me, and how it inspired me to start the love notes in the first place). I believe that love is the fundamental energy of the universe, and that we are all deeply loved. When we are on the other side of the veil (so to speak), we are connected to this love, however, as we are born into this world and our experiences here start to bog us down, we forget this love. We cut ourselves off from it. So I wanted to do these daily love notes, to remind myself of this love that is there for all of us, if we just take the time to tune into it.

The love notes are really just affirmations, but I allow them to come up spontaneously every day, tuning into where I want to focus the love. Once I have written them down, I then read them out loud to myself, and really tune into the feeling of love, feeling it in each part of my body, and especially the heart. Before I even do the love notes themselves, I also meditate for about 10-15 minutes, focusing on opening my heart, and connecting with the love. I sit crosslegged with my hands crossed, one over the other, at the heart center in the middle of the chest. That way when it is time to do the love notes, my heart is already open, and I am connected to that loving feeling.

Speaking of the heart center, which is really just another name for the heart chakra, there is also something called the High Heart, which is often referred to as a second heart chakra, located a little bit higher on the chest. I’m bringing up the High Heart, because I was listening to a channelled message earlier today (by Kryon, in case you were wondering, look him up, he is amazing!), where the High Heart was mentioned. It wasn’t the first time I had heard of it, but I loved the way it was referred to in that particular message.

It basically boils down to the High Heart being to the Heart what the Higher Self is to the Self. So it is basically love in a higher state of consciousness. Just as we can access the Higher Self through meditation, we can do the same with the High Heart. Accessing and aligning with the High Heart, means to open up to pure, unconditional love. To me there is nothing greater! If we can merge with the consciousness of the High Heart, even for just a few minutes a day, but consistently do it, so much more love can be felt and shared in our lives.

Since starting love note journaling these past couple of weeks, I have been feeling happier, more joyful and loving towards myself and others. Some of my friends also loved the idea and have began doing it too. I hope you will join us! And as of today I also plan to connect with the High Heart every day, and endeavor to connect even deeper with that universal love that is a part of all of us, and also everything around us. I believe it is time to bring a higher consciousness of love to this earth, and I also believe that it starts with each and every one of us. Why not be a channel for good, a channel for love, and join me?

Love & light,

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PS. I am planning to offer up a FREE online Challenge, called The Chakra Challenge very soon. It’s basically a 7-day journey of daily email lessons, where we will learn about a new Chakra every day, and do a little exercise to balance and embody its energies. We will also all gather for support and daily love in my new free Facebook Group, The Inner Connection (join us here by clicking the link). It won’t be the same without you, so I hope you will join us for this fun and free Challenge, and dive a little deeper into the Chakras, for more joy, peace and balance! More information coming soon…

Take Time Out For Yourself!

Hi sweetie,

I’m back!!! And happy to be so!!

I ended up taking most of September off from my business, including writing any blogs and newsletters, as I really needed to take a step back and re-evaluate what I was doing. During July and August I was doing some things in my business that really just didn’t feel in alignment with me and who I am, and the more I tried to push through it and keep going, the worse it got. In the end I was feeling anxious, not sleeping well and feeling depressed and confused. And if that wasn’t enough I also ended up throwing my back out, just to be really out of alignment on all levels, including physically. 🙂

With my back out of alignment, I could barely move, so I was forced to slow down. This was really a blessing though (despite the fact that I was in a lot of pain), because I was able to take a break and really take stock of where I was at, both professionally and personally (which, let’s face it, are interrelated, anyway). I gave myself some space to heal, and didn’t do anything business related until I felt inspired to do so, which took at least a couple of weeks. But I am so glad that I didn’t force myself through this period, but was gentle with myself and just allowed things to unfold, both my own healing, as well as clarity on where I wanted to go with my life and business.

The art of allowance is actually a great lesson that I was reminded of throughout this. Allowing and trusting that the universe (or Spirit, or God, or however you prefer to think of it) has a plan, and all we need to do is let go, and let God, so to speak, is really one of the greatest lessons we can learn in this life, in my opinion. To follow it, isn’t always easy, though. Fear is probably the number one thing that gets in the way of this. I think our society inadvertently raises us to be afraid, and makes us forget that in truth there really is nothing to be afraid of.

The universe (or God) always has our back, and it’s when we don’t trust that, that we get in trouble. And I am talking as much about myself here, as I do anyone else. Anxiety and fear is definitely something I have experienced a lot of in my life, and it’s not easy to let it go. But if we can shift from fear into love, then there is no way fear can still exist. What I have come to believe, is that shifting into love means opening up to our own inner self, our soul, or inner essence, which is unconditional love. If we can connect to and be in that state as much as possible, we will be able to let go of fear more and more.

I am reading a book right now by Anita Moorjani, called Dying To Be Me. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend it! It is about a woman who gets cancer and on the brink of dying, she has a near death experience. From that experience she realizes that there really is no judgement, that all we have waiting for us on the other side, is love, unconditional love. We are the ones that put all these requirements and judgements on ourselves, and expectations on who we are supposed to be, and how we should live our lives. The truth is all we have to do is be ourselves, and pursue our own happiness and bliss in life. And yes, I realize it’s not always easy to just follow your bliss, when there are such things as rent and bills etc. that need to be paid. But we can try as much as possible.

Start with one small thing that you can do to feel more love and joy in your life, whether it is taking your husband (or wife) out on a date, taking some alone time and going for a walk, or treat yourself to some ice cream. It doesn’t have to be anything big, even little acts, where we can show ourselves that we really care about our own joy and happiness, makes a big difference, especially if we do them on a regular basis. For me, I have decided to write daily “love notes” to myself, where I will highlight something that I appreciate about myself. I will use a special journal just for this purpose, my own “love note journal”. 🙂 If you want to join me in this, that would be awesome (but only if you really want to, as it has to resonate with you)!

I hope you do something loving towards yourself this week, whatever it is, and until next time, take care and enjoy life as much as possible!

With love,

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PS. I haven’t been completely lazy while I was gone, and I have actually taken some time to revamp my website, as well as my offerings, which I am really excited about! Some prices have changed (some have even lowered), so if you have been toying with the idea of working with me, now may be a good time to sign up for a complimentary call, to explore what we can do together. Would love to connect with you more! Anyway, you can check out my re-designed website here, and my new offerings here. 🙂