If there is something we can rely on in life, it is that change will always come.
Life really is in a constant ebb and flow, and we are always growing. However, there are times when the universe asks us to take a giant leap, often without any forewarning. And that isn’t always easy. Although I do believe that change can be a positive thing as long as we are open to that, we don’t always see this right away.
So how do we deal with change when it seems to be thrust at us seemingly out of nowhere? Change can be the loss of a job, moving to a new place, a breakup, or a myriad other things. It usually does involve some kind of loss, though, and for that reason I believe it is important that we acknowledge that and recognize our need to feel that loss and allow ourselves time to grieve.
We need to let go of the old before we can embrace the new, and that can take some time. Being patient with ourselves and allowing ourselves the time we need to heal is important, but perhaps one of the biggest challenges of all. Change can be painful, and it is in our nature to resist it. Most of us don’t want to be in pain, yet growth often hurts, and is perhaps even necessary so that we can really appreciate the beauty on the other side. It is a fact in the world of contrast that we all live in.
When change happens we need to allow for the time it takes to emerge on the other side. Having said that, there are certainly things we can do to make it easier on ourselves.
Taking care of ourselves on all levels is important, and although we may feel like burying a hole in the ground and hide there until everything is over, that is usually not an option. 🙂 Instead we need to slow down as much as we are able to and do whatever we feel we need at any given time. This could be to go for a walk, do some meditation, exercise or perhaps call a friend for some uplifting conversation. All those things are great, and we should make use of all of them at some point.
When we are going through change and challenges in life, taking care of ourselves is sometimes the last thing on our minds, but it becomes even more important during this time. This includes both physically, mentally/emotionally and spiritually. As much as possible, try to eat healthy and get some exercise, see a therapist, attend a support group or talk to good friends, and keep up your spiritual practice (or start one if you don’t already have one).
During change it is time to go inwards and reflect on what has been, what you want to release and let go of, and what you want to embrace and bring in more of. Meditation and prayer can be very helpful when we feel stuck and in despair.
All these things can be comforting and help move you forward, but nothing is ever going to take away the pain completely, expect seeing it through. It is a process and it takes the time it takes. Sometimes the greatest comfort is just knowing that it is temporary, and that all will be well in the end (and if you don’t feel that it is well yet, that means it is still not the end).
There is a beautiful poem by a Swedish writer, Karin Boye, that I wanted to share with you. I found this English translation of it online, and I feel that it beautifully depicts the process of change, transformation and grief. I hope you enjoy it too!
Of Course It Hurts
So if you, like me, are going through some changes in your life right now, I hope you are able to take care of yourself, and take comfort in the fact that this is a temporary phase that will, once you pull through, take you to new, great heights!
And if you feel that you could use a little help and support in your life right now, I would like to invite you to join in my free online experience, The Chakra Challenge, a 7-day mini-course which kicks off on May 1st, with daily emails and lessons on the chakras, helping you to balance and heal so that you can experience more joy, peace and love in your life.
You can sign up here, and get on the list to receive the daily emails. Feel free to ask if you have any questions about it, but all the information should be in the link. I would love to see you there!
That’s if from me today, but take care and until next time, sending you so much…
Love & light,